Each act of touch beyond a handshake must be asked for consent. For example, "can I give you a hug?", "can I touch your waist?", "can I dance with you?". If in doubt, ask for consent. If the answer is not an enthusiastic 100% "yes" then it is a "no". Do not try to convince or coerce anyone. One "no" is all that is needed, do not ask again! We want everyone, especially women, to feel comfortable, we want people to feel safe to open themselves up to form loving, trusting, connections. Especially since we welcome survivors of sexual abuse to the Free Love Movement, they may have had former bad experiences with touch so it is very important these survivors can feel safe and heal in a positive environment.
Remember: "if in doubt, don't say it" and "if in doubt ask for consent". You are always better off over asking for consent than sexually harassing someone.
Just because someone consented to one sex act does not mean their consent is automatically implied for other sex acts. For example, just because a woman consented to receiving oral sex does not mean she also consented to vaginal or anal sex. Each sex act must be individually consented to.
The responsibility to prevent sexual assault lies both on the predator and the victim, on both men and women. Sexual predators are attracted to weak individuals and easy prey. Sheep attract wolves, wolves don't attract sheep. Whether you like it or not, this is a law of nature that will not change.
Do not make yourself into an easy target for sexual assault, this attracts predators, take responsibility for your own safety, and do not appear vulnerable or intoxicated.
People who are intoxicated CAN NOT consent. Do not try to perform sex acts on an intoxicated person, these are the situations in which the intoxicated person will wake up the next morning with regret and understandably make accusations of sexual assault. Do not put yourself in this situation, as the perpetrator or as the victim. Do not become intoxicated. The Free Love movement does not allow alcoholic beverages above 15% alcohol and we do not allow anyone intoxicated to enter and anyone intoxicated will be asked to leave, it doesn't matter how much money they spent.
Personal photography and videos are not permitted at Free Love events, taking photos or videos of someone else without their consent is a violation and will not be tolerated. Do not bring cameras to Free Love Events. Everyone will receive a phone camera cover when entering Free Love Events, try not to use your phone and rather enjoy the event in the moment. We value the privacy of everyone and want to make our events safe and discrete.
You are NEVER entitled to sex or entitled to touch another person's body without consent, it doesn't matter how much money you have, how much money you may have spent on the person, whether you are a VIP, celebrity, man, woman, gay, straight. No person is ever entitled to another human without consent.
The consequences for violating consent, even if it is just a simple phrase of sexual harassment or just touching someone's waist without consent will be dire.
Firstly, we may call the police and make a report immediately and we may press changes.
Secondly, an offender will be permanently banned from the Free Love Movement.
Thirdly, an email will be sent out to the hundreds of people in our email list, plus an announcement on our Instagram and website naming and picturing the offender and describing exactly what they did to violate consent rules. We will then suggest to our entire community to forward the email to everyone they know and suggest not to ever work with this offender again.
Fourthly, we will research where the offender works and what professional guilds he or she is a member of and send a letter to their boss and their guild describing how they violated consent.
So essentially if one violates consent rules in the Free Love Movement, we will make sure thousands of people find out about it (the victim's privacy will be protected). If you feel at all like you may have a hard time following consent rules, skip our events and instead check yourself into intensive therapy!
There are no excuses for violating consent rules, "I come from a touchy-feely culture" or "it was different back in my day" are not excuses.
If you know of someone who has a reputation for sexual harassment or inappropriate conduct, please use the "contact" page to send us a report about it so we can make sure these individuals are not allowed into our events to begin with. We screen event attendees and would like to prevent these predatory individuals from ever even attending our events.
The Free Love Movement is not like feminist organizations who erroneously see all men as creepy or as predators, when in fact data shows 95% of men are NOT sexual predators. We want to eliminate the small percentage of men who do perpetrate sexual abuse so the rest of us can all enjoy sex as we deserve to.
Women can also be sexual predators, and consent does not have a gender. Women can sexually harass men and women can also sexually harass other women. Men can sexually harass other men. Gay men can sexually harass women. "Honey I'm gay" is not an excuse to touch a woman without consent. We will deal with predators in the same way, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation.
Women (or men) who make false accusations of sexual harassment are also just as toxic to our community as predators. Women who try to use our events as opportunistic strategies to make false accusations of sexual harassment will also be subject to the same punishments listed above. We don't want toxic, resentful women in The Free Love Movement, we want non-judgmental, kind, sexually enlightened, sex positive, and mature women just as we have these expectations for men.
PLEASE WATCH THE FOLLOWING CONSENT VIDEO
THEN PROCEED TO THE CONSENT QUIZZ
You must receive a score of 80% or better on the consent quiz to be allowed to attend Free Love events, you can only take the quiz once so be sure to study up on consent and if you have any questions about consent please contact us prior to taking your quiz and we would be happy to help you study for the quiz.
Once you pass the quiz once you will not need to take it again for future events.
The quiz takes approximately 5-10 minutes.